Monday, 6 November 2017

Stand Up Against Bullying

Hi lovelies,

So I'm currently house-bound with tonsillitis & feeling very sorry for myself - I definitely think I am getting old and can't hack the nights out anymore. Maybe I need to actually start taking a coat buuut we know that will never happen.


Anyway, moving on. I'm going to talk about something slightly different on the blog today, something which I don't think is talked about enough and it should be! Bullying. It comes in many different forms and can affect you at any time in your life and sadly, is affecting far too many people as we speak but not enough is being done to recognise just how serious it is.
I met a young girl last week who, I have to say, is incredible. She was one of the most bubbly and confident 13 year olds I have ever met and I loved meeting her. A budding actress, she sadly suffers from several health conditions that see her in and out of hospital on a regular basis yet she doesn't let that get her down. She remains her positive, upbeat, bubbly, amazing self! As if being in and out of hospital, at any age, isn't bad enough - she is made to feel so low every day at school that she is reduced to tears. She's also faced lots of cyber abuse on the likes of Snapchat and other social media. 

It absolutely broke my heart to hear such an amazing young person, at only 13, describe themselves as "fat and ugly". How wrong is our society that other people can be that disgusting towards others that a young person feels so low about themselves?!?!? At such a young age, life should be about having fun and enjoying yourself - you shouldn't have to worry about what you look like or how your make-up is. Trust me, if you'd have seen me in my early teens I was a sight for sore eyes. Society is so caught up with looks nowadays and it is so sad that this has encouraged a stereotype for how we should all look and be (which then gives people the feeling that they have the right to bully anyone who doesn't fit this stereotype).

What people don't realise is: firstly, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. This is something that has taken me so long to learn but at 22 years old, I have now realised that I won't be everyone's cup of tea. Not everyone will 'get me' or think I'm pretty or like the way that I dress. And that's okay. Secondly, beauty is not just on the outside. Of course, it is nice to feel nice on the outside - it's human - but beauty comes from within too. If you're not a nice person on the inside then you really aren't pretty in my eyes at all - no matter what you look like. That is something that I cannot stress enough.

I think the thing that hit me the most about the situation I heard recently was that the school were informed and they didn't think it was important enough to act on it. A young girl is being made to feel victimised, lonely, alienated, ugly and not good enough, day in and day out yet she needs to just get on with it and deal with it?! Why is bullying being tolerated? Why isn't emotional abuse viewed to be just as important as physical? I couldn't believe my ears.

I was lucky enough to never experience bullying through my school years but I've been through it at an older age and I understand just how horrendous it can make you feel. It can make you question everything about yourself: Your worth. Are you good enough? What have you done wrong?

Let me tell you this now:


You do not deserve to be treated the way that you are being treated and although it is hard to see at the time, it says more about that person than it does about you. 

If you are in a situation where someone is putting you down or making you feel bad about yourself in any way and you don't feel able to talk to someone close to you, there are people that can help.

Here's a few amazing charities that stand against bullying:

It is National Anti-Bullying Week from 13 November 2017 and I will be teaming up with 'Bullies Out' to try and combat some of this behaviour and raise awareness. Keep an eye out on my social media pages for more information.


"There is no one in the world that is you and that is your power"



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